A study conducted by researchers from the University of Missouri found that the 'vent' it makes you feel worse. The researchers conducted a series of tests on young women and found that their tendency to talk about problems that occur in excess it makes the feeling worse.
They will get stuck in negative thought patterns and risk of depression and stress. Indeed, the share issue at the beginning makes better sense. That's because the chat triggers chemicals in women's brains to react like a comforting opium heroin. However, when an overdose, would lead to feelings of anxiety and depression.
Discuss the issue just reinforces the problem. The more we talk, the less likely we are actually doing something to fix it.
"When women talk about their problems, it was a great relief because of the support and validation. But, they did not see that this would make them worse," says Amanda Rose, associate professor of psychology Faculty of Arts and Sciences University Missiori, as quoted by the Daily Mail .
In addressing the issue, women and men have different ways. "Men tend to be better when speaking and they would prefer to do different activities to take his mind off the problem," said Amanda
However, whether it is better if you follow the way men cope with the problem? Psychologist Linda Papadopoulos think so. "Talking about problems with friends are very well done, but if all you do is redefine the problem without trying to find a solution, then it will only make you anxious," he said.
Even thought, women tend to lose perspective and way of thinking when his friend suffered the same problem. It turns out, share problems, effective as a medium of emotional contagion. When someone is thinking negatively, it will affect the moods of others.
That is why when a friend began to whimper, then other friends will join in and make a load problem becomes two-fold. Despite the fact said vent does not make her feel better, they can not escape from this habit.
This may be due to shared problems proved to be a binding experience. There's something interesting, relevant to know that friend you trust enough to quell anxiety and heart must feel relieved when there is someone listening to your whining.
According to psychologist Jane McCartney, this is a modern phenomenon that occurs in society. "We live in a culture where we see people talking at length about their problems. In some cases, share the problem becomes one of how to start a conversation," he said.
He said this will be the danger when you have no problems to speak of, you'll start looking around for the problem only to find topics of conversation.
"You want to please your friends in the middle of moaning because this means that they will listen to what you want to say. However, the effect it makes the mood more chaotic. He'll suck up the negative energy and in the long run no one wants to be close to people who are always whining about the problem, "he said.
Indeed, the share issue aims to find solutions. But, you have to limit yourself. "You should avoid focusing on the trigger of the problem. But, it should focus on the solution to your problem," he said.
Maybe it's good if you choose to share their problems with male companions. For example, when the aggrieved company work, they will refer you to a lawyer. If you complain about finances, he will advise you to cut unnecessary spending. Perhaps, you will feel very disappointed with the short answer them. That's because you want to vent all the emotions, but in fact they were right.
Linda Papadopoulus say that you should remember how well you live. "We tend to focus on something bad than good. In fact we have so much to be thankful for," he said.
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